I am sending you big hugs... I know the EA can be very hard to ignore. And you wonder every moment if she is talking to the OM or whatever. It really hurts.
One thing I will say IMHO, if you have to tell your kids about the D I would not recommend telling them about the OM. At this point things are still up in the air. You do not know for sure that that is what is going on. You can assume it and it does really sound like it but there has been no real proof.
If you tell your kids you might not get the reaction you are expecting. She is their mom and kids, young or old, look at their parents differently then how we as the spouse do. Kids are very perceptive and pick up on all sorts of things we think they are not noticing. They notice.
Anyways, that is JMO. Hope youu can figure out what is best for this sitch.
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
