Am I piecing ? Just can't tell 3...

[Harrier]

Okay, I'm going to be a jerk here. If you don't want to read it. Stop here.

I'll be honest here, I've come close to meeting OW in the past two months.

Trust me I'm all man...

You mentioned this several times. How you've had opportunities and how you've put them aside.

Let me tell, you aren't "all man." Not even close. A man wouldn't get all pissy because he doesn't get what he wants from his wife. A man doesn't turn to other women because things aren't moving fast enough for him. A man doesn't take the easy way instead of working on his marriage...when his W is giving him a chance.

Honestly, you are behaving like a 4-year old. I saw this in my son the other night. He didn't get want he wanted so he said "I don't like you, Daddy" and pouted. It was kind of an eye opener and I realize that with affection....I've been a 4-year old sometimes.

At this stage of the game, you have to decide what you can life with. If you need affection/attention from females. Go out meet OW and live with the consequences. Or you need to cut your losses with your W, if she isn't meeting your needs.

I don't know how many times people have said this to you. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. You have to trust that your W is working on these things and will get to a relationship you can be happy with. But you aren't there yet and this attitude isn't helping..even if you are ALWAYS nice around her and only vent on her.

This will be an issue. the fact that she is in the house, sleeping in the same bed, letting you initiate contact and working on the marriage should be enough for you for now.

I look at it like this. i can do 6 months with no hugs, kisses, etc. If it means my marriage is stronger/better for the next 40 years. You have to decide for yourself.