DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[MrBond]

Ouch. Everything you did was pursuing.

Never EVER tell her that you are waiting on her decision. You are not supposed to be waiting for her to see how your life will turn out. That's also pursuit.

Make a plan of action of how your life will be WITHOUT your W and live accordingly. Take the "pressure" off of her. She feels that she is making a decision for both of you. Not so.

You've already told her that you don't agree with the D that's all you need to say. Now you need to Supersize your life. it's tough, but doable.