18 Years of Marriage - Leaving in June

[habitacker]

I know how you feel. That is where I am at also. I can't detach, it feels like I am giving up.

It gives you this feeling like everyone is just telling you to detach because they all know our M is over and they are preparing us for the end.

The changes are for me, but my family is "ME".

Maybe the detaching is in a way temporary, because we are smothering our wives. If we don't detach, we will never leave them alone to figure things out for themselves. We want to help them figure things out, but we can't. We can not change what they are feeling, only they can. We will only make it worse.

Remember, men are fixers. We want it fixed now.

Our wives do not like us at this moment, why would they listen to us? We are the ones who caused all this in the first place, why would they think we can fix it? We are the last person on the face of the earth they would listen to.

MrBond had some great advice on detaching on a different post about a week ago, but I can't find it.