I just find the whole change for me thing weird. I am changing to keep my family intact. I want to be a better person of course and I see the errors I have made in the past and I am going to change them.

But I just cannot grasp the for me only thing.

Me - 39 yrs old
Wife - 39 yrs old
Married - 18 years
Together - almost 21 year
Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10
Bomb Dropped in May 2010
Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out