I meant to warn you, that statement usually follows the "he's only a friend".
You are right, she would not text just a friend a couple hundred times. She is getting something out of that connection....you can bet your life on that. If it hasn't turned into a full blown EA, it's well on it's way. Don't buy the junk about OM helping your M. He's helping himself right into the back door.
Have a plan and do not act out of emotions. Decide what you want and what you are willing to do and not do.
I would also like to add to what Sandi said. I think sometimes people focus on the fact that there are A LOT of texts. But in my case it was the complete opposite. I mean if you looked our phone records. My W and OM probably averaged 1-2 texts per day over a month. Phone calls were about 2-3 week were in the 5-10 min range. And always during work hours. She also had days where she emailed him 5-6 times, but then would go a week without emailing him. They only worked together 1 day a week. But there was NO doubt in my mind she was having an emotional connection with this guy. And she knew it too and admitted it was an EA. (after giving me the "friends" line weeks before)
A big part of this was my gut screaming at me that something was wrong. What does your gut say?
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
