Drive The Bus, Or Be The Passenger?

[Kemper]

Totally understand and agree that the relationship is not fixed. I have no intention of resting on my laurels now. MC is still ongoing and Retro is still a go. Neither my W or I want to go back to how our relationship was in the past. We both know that it is going to take work and continue to take work into the future.

Thank you so much for taking the time to post. It is great to hear from people that have successfully reconciled and to also know that what I am feeling is normal.

I am still working on quieting the voice. In the past I would have stewed on it and not said anything. I find that I am getting better about opening up to my W about how I feel. I still feel sometimes that my W is still closed off but hopefully that will change with time. I need to be consistent and she needs to realize that I am not going to try to fix things or make her feel bad for how she feels, but instead validate her feeling and try to empathize with her.