SA, Bea couldn't have said it better. Some do rush out and file and others will talk about it over and over again and then much later will file. Others will talk about it and never do. I think it's where they are at in the crisis that makes them finally do it. They are such an unhappy lot of folks that think the divorce decree will set them totally free to be happy, but it doesn't. Sure, they are in a "high" state for about 6-9 months after the divorce (in many instances), that "high" will slowly disappear and their unhappiness is right back there in their faces.
You must remember, you or your relationship w/the mlcer are not what caused this emotional crisis in them. You can sit there and beat yourself up and try to rationalize the what ifs all you want, but the answer will never come because it's not about you at all.
The filing will throw you for a loop, but you must remain steady and focus on the finacnails for now. You must think w/your bring and not w/your heart during this time. I know you love him, but you must protect yourself financially. No one knows what will happen after the divorce....
Hang in there. We are all here for you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
