DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[ScaredinCanada]

Morning everyone,

So yesterday was my 8th anniversary. W had to work in the evening, so I got up with the girls. I thought about making my W breakfast in bed but figured it was pursuing. I left the card I got her on the island in our kitchen (at first she ingnored) but eventually she picked it up and opened it. She just said thanks.

After breakfast she started to ask me what I had planned for the day. I told her that I hadn't planned anything as I wanted to see what she wanted to do. (obviously I was getting at the fact that it was our anniversary) She just said that D6 needed new shoes, and that she had wanted to do some shopping, so I decieded to goto the gym with my brother in-law.

I asked her if she still wanted to go out for dinner for annivesary, and she just said "No thanks, I'm fine". Unfortuantly I asked her if she realized that it was our anniversay. She just said "Why would I do anything special our wedding isn't something I like to think about". I told her that was fine, that we could at least celebrate the day as a family, think about what our marriage has brought us - specifically our 3 girls! She replies, "Well it's not like we had to get married to have the girls, or that we only had them because we got married."

I just told her again that I'm worried about her, and I think she needs to really think about what she's doing. At same time I told her that I'm left waiting for her to decide which isn't fair to me. She told me it's really hard for her it's not easy. Even though supposedly my C (who he also goes too) said "I'm not sure how much I can do for you since you appear to have your mind made up", told her "to be honest with me and tell me where she stands."

Needless to say I'm not going back to the C.

At least I had a good workout, and I made a nice dinner for the kids and saved my W a plate (called her work and asked them to let her know I saved her a plate)