I am with Sandi. And a EA would explain a lot wouldnt it? I am sorry, I dont buy the "she knows she would hurt me so much and therefore wouldnt do THAT". I was married to the best man I knew. "He would NEVER do THAT to me!!"... Guess what? And he did THAT to me and I had noc clue...
Do not feel guilty for doubting your wife. As Sandi says, HAVE A PLAN and stay in control of yourself! Kalni