I fit the description of the WAW, but HE left .

[Queen_of_Swords]

Thank you for your responses and encouragement grebjack and marcusko.
I am only halfway through reading Divorce Remedy. I plan to finish by the end of this week. I've got some time.

I am doing what my coach advises though and keeping a journal of the postive things he does do, so I have a little more balanced view of things. It's really easy to focus on the negative stuff and forget about the little positive acts that occur.

I had my g/f over today, she was here when he dropped off the kids, and I specifically asked her about how I behave around him as a reality check. Her overall analysis is that I was pleasant, polite and neutral.

I've completely shut up about talking about things that are important to me with him. There is no point. He wants it superficial, so I save my breath, words and energy now. In my view, distorted as that may be, he really doesn't care about how I feel or what I think anyway. That's a bitter thing to accept, but I must, or say things that don't benefit me.