My wife moved out 11/10/10. She came back on the 13th and gathered most of her belongings which I packed and staged for her. I was trying to be helpful. Well I have not seen or spoken to her in over two months now. Our only communication has been some texts and a couple of short emails. She is cordial in her replies but all business. I was trying to give her space as she requested but I now feel I waited too long to contact her initially (1 month). She has moved in with a very "negative" friend who immediately introduced my wife to some guy. Via phone records I have seen their communications go from a slow stream to a raging torrent. At this point I don't think it's a PA. He is just meeting some emotional needs. The W seems to be doing everything to sever every tie with me. Also she is doing much more drinking than is normal for her. I know she has contacted an attorney and has filed for divorce last week. I should be served soon. She does not know that I know this. I have been very good about keeping positive and not pressuring though I did give her a letter last week stating my desire for a future with her and my love for her. I see my situation deteriorating and so instead of these texts I've been sending I decided it was time to call her. She did not answer the phone. I left a short friendly message. It should be known that 1) I had an emotional affair three years ago which I told her about, 2) she left two years ago and we reconciled several months later but alot of damage was done at this time, 3) her mother divorced her husband this time last year and is facilitating my wifes divorce. The spring board to her leaving this time is an argument we had on 10/16/10. Up to this time though things were going pretting well between us for months. I didn't have any big blow ups, she was being very loving and saying how much she loved me and our home, then "snap" and she says she needs a break and she can't be in "that house". There are a lot of other details I'm leaving out but this post is getting long. Any thoughts on my sitch? What should I do once I'm served? I thought I would write her an email where I am friendly and tell her I understand why she has come to this decision. I talk to my DB coach tomorrow. Thanks.
