Big talk tonight. I am a wreck, need support.

[Denver_2010]

Hope - I am excited that your sitch is doing better, and I think that you should be optimistic. I also think that I can somewhat relate to what your H is going through. If he felt anywhere close to how I felt when I was going through it, I can't imagine that he is over it this quickly. I would suggest that you continue doing what your doing for now. Continue your 180s, compliment him, let him know that you respect him etc.

I also had a thought on what happened yesterday when he and his boys decided to go to the batting cages instead of doing something that you could join in on. I think that you probably should have acted "as if" you were excited that they were going to go spend some time together and just explained that you still weren't feeling well so wouldn't be going with. Maybe you could have told them that you'd like to go next time... maybe even have asked them if they'd show you how to hit the ball? You live in a house full of men. There is no way that they aren't going to want to do the 'manly' stuff. Maybe you could try a little to join in? Men love to feel that their W's are "in to" what the are. I know that I would have loved it my W would have been a little more involved with my SS's baseball team when I coached his team a couple of years ago. She would watch, but she never would participate much. I understand she and your perspective of not really being that interested in participating, but had she acted a little more interested in being part of it, it would have been great!

It's a tough dynamic that you have going there. Im just saying that maybe if you seem a little more into what they are doing, H will be a little more accomadating to your ideas on things to do.