No worries Habit and MJ on asking questions on my post. No worries at all. I am trying to figure this out too and you guys are asking good follow up questions. Our situations have a lot of similarities, so yes, I believe that we can learn from each other's.

I follow each of your threads as well.

Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce