On Figurative Ledge - Talk Me Down?

[Denver_2010]

Guess it's how you see it, b/c to me...your W is applying exactly what you should be doing. Only exception is she initiated TM's.

Look back over the conversation again. She kept her sentences very short and she was the one to end the conversation first, every time.

To me it appears as though you are pushing, but to you I'm sure it seems as if you're being a good friend. JMHO.

I know it's frustrating for you. Sometimes you may feel that everything you do or say is wrong. Keep learning what works....that's the important part.
((hugs))

That's what I'm trying to do; learn what works. I was almost completely dark with her for the first 3 weeks that we were physically separated and that seemed to allow her time to lose some of the anger towards me. She initiated some contact and even agreed to see me that one night before xmas. But when I continued to be dark, I seemed to take a couple of steps backwards. Maybe I became impatient. Then I had that convo with my FIL where he said that he heard W thinks that I don't love her and don't care about M because I'm not doing anything proactive. It has confused me. And yes, the longer that she and I go without contact, the more the fear and anxiety raises in me. I can't deny that.

Like I said, I will think hard about what you are saying here Sandi. thanks again.