I failled horribly...

[Denver_2010]

As for our financial situation, it is good for me. Not so much for her. I make twice what she does and have about 10 times the assets. It was always my job to save for the future. You are probably right, she probably can't afford to buy a bunch of stuff right now. Right before she left, she bought a new car. Now that she has moved out, she now has probably over $1100 a month in new bills when you total the car note, insurance, health insurance (that I now make pay for), rent and utilities. She is definitely much more strapped for cash than I am.

I find it almost eery how similar our sitch's are. My W bought a new car right before she left too. One that she cannot afford by herself. She is much more cash strapped than me too. I told you a little about our debt issue on my thread. It is more of a concern for her than it is for me if we D or LS. I'm just irritated that she is bailing on something that we did together and planned to deal with together. I'm not sure that I should let her out of that if we do D or LS... I mean that she is the one that is bailing out! Uggg... p*sses me off.

I guess me being nice is making it easier for her to let her guard down. That is good, I guess. But, much like my buddy Denver, I am worried that I might be making it easier for her to walk away. I guess the most important thing to do right now is just continue to show her the new, calm, level-headed me. At some point, she will begin to wonder who "this guy" is. Oh well, I have to go shower and get ready. I think it might be time for some motivational music of some kind.

It is true what they say... I would not wish this on my worst enemy.
FOBD

I worry that my W is only showing some softening to try to get me to be nice if/when she decides to drop the D or LS bomb. And no, I wouldn't wish this experience on my worst enemy either.