Hey mj144, I've read this entire thread and find that we are in somewhat a similar situation. I've added a link to my thread if you'd like to read more. I would like to add, like some others here have, that when it comes to spousal confrontations that go south, we really need to learn to get our heads out of the funk/game. Men are fixers, so when something goes wrong, we tried to find a solution.
I've been practicing, but sometimes fail and let my feelings and old habits get the better of me. Last night was an example where I managed to shot myself in the proverbial foot.
