Hugs to you Wanda. This is my 2nd time here too (2 different marriages) so I feel for you. No one wants to be here twice (no offense to the lovely people here).
When did he leave? Will he go to counseling at all? When you say unusual porn, is it illegal or dangerous? Meaning - is it child pornography or something that you need to worry about with the kids? If it's plain weird porn... I don't know the answer to your question. Maybe some of the men here can answer that. In my experience with men, they usually only look at things they desire. Does he possibly have a sex addiction?
Good for you for drawing boundaries.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
