I offered to talk the R this evening because I could tell she wanted to. Went nowhere. First she said I wasn't really going to listen to her. I assured her I was.
All she ended up saying was that she was happy with life, but not our situation. As if I didn't know that, or as if I am! ;-)
(Therapist has limited what she is allowed to say to me-no more hurtful insults or abuse.)