On Figurative Ledge - Talk Me Down?

[habitacker]

Sandi,

Thanks, I needed to see that hardline approach about detaching from you.

I need to do it.

I have a few things I feel that is holding me back.

1. Same as everyone else, fear. It doesn't make sense to us.

2. I would like to know why this helps the WAW, and why it would help the WAW want back in the R, instead of making it easier for them to walk away.

3. Being in the same house seems to make it tougher to detach, but I leave her alone to do her thing the best I can. I was always gone in the past, and now I am always home. Mainly to be with the kids, this is part of 180. This being home contradicts detaching in her eyes I would assume, but I don't know how to do it differently.

I would just get out of the house and leave her alone completely, but it is just not going to happen with kids involved.