Angel, I know exactly what you are talking about. Although we have only had one R talk since bomb, it was initiated by me, and I only heard things I didn't want to hear.

Now, I fight with the patience thing everyday. I want to have R talk so bad, but I am afraid to because it can be bad.

This is why I have decided to just wait her out like you and most others say to do. It is so hard. I am a big time fixer, and am having a hard time with this. Especially when I see so many others on here having R talk. Makes me wonder who is doing the right thing.

What do you mean by suggestible? Do you have a link to that? I am starting to look at the MLC thing a little harder. I knew in the not so distant past I felt like I kind of went through one, but the more time goes by, I really see some strange, different things from my W since D-day.

I am sure this happens a lot, but still would like to know why? I guess I want to know if she is MLC or just GAL, and what is the difference? Why the change?


H-40 W-38
Together-20
Married-12
boy-7 girl-3
bomb-9/17/10
No papers
live together
No affair