Ready to give up

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Well I have not posted here in about a week. Things have been different. I am not sure if my W is truly trying to be no contact with OM or if she is playing the game.
This past tuesday daytime OM broke No Contact by emailing her during daytime sleep. She took her sleep meds and responded in her sleep on her droid she did not recall doing it until she read it, this is believable. She came down to get ready for work crying. OM turns out was very mean via email.
The new thing here was she ended up calling me from work to tell me about the email. Thats a first. She mostly slept and read Wed and Thurs between her shifts. I was nice she was so miserable I consoled she accepted light back rubbing and short hugs she would say stop when it was enough.
D-Papers should be expired now her contract to buy house should expire in a few days. She is acting less defensive not carrying her cell every second of the day. She does not want to talk about the A. She began a M issues conversation saturday so I asked her about the D papers and she doesn't know where they are. i asked about the house she says she would love to buy it but would rather spend money on the kids than on repairs.
There is no obvious evidence of any other contact with OM. She has shown no sign of desire to reconcile. But she is not as defensive. She even repotted a plant and put out new candles in the house. Sadly while snooping, i know don't, I found a prepaid cell last txt sept.
I have been acting cordial and nice doing things that I normally would have done before the A especially with this winter weather. I have told her if she doesn't like something I am doing to directly tell me. She says she won't.
I don't know where her head is maybe confused?
I am sure she is trying to figure it out. I was thinking a small 180 for this week. She was so distraught last week I was checking on her. I was just going to leave her alone this week. I want to send a good night text when she is at work though as a reminder the kids are tucked in safe and that I am available for contact if she needs to talk.
For myself sledding with kids football Watched fireproof, I am going to use the Love Dare as a guide Just need to get it.
Any thoughts input would be appreciated.
Thanks