Has she said why she left? What complaints does she have about you and the marriage? What 180's are you doing? I ask because it's hard to respond or give advice without knowing her reasoning. Were you too controlling? If so, then a 180 is signing the D paperwork and giving her control. If not, then maybe you should consider asking her to wait 90 days or something. Surely she complained (all WAS's do - we just don't listen until it's too late).... so what can you work on?
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11