Habit, I know its hard not to initiate R talk but in my sitch, almost every time we have R talk it ends up worse. It sort of makes them face up to the fact that they don't love us and this in turn reinforces it and makes them act like it.
I read in a link that the spouse in MLC is very suggestible.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
