Is the tide turning???????

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Mila, Missher, Lorie, and CW, thanks for your feedback. My wallet was stolen from the clinic while I was working on thursday, so I have been dealing with that the last few days but I have experienced little miracles in this process. Someone upstairs has been watching out for me. The thief charged $3500 within one hour! Pretty amazing.

Mila,

you got it...he could have canceled...but he didn't. To me it looks more like some kind of internal struggle...trying to work things out in his mind....you may be right, that struggle may involve GF#2, but you probably have something to do with it as well,...

Thanks for your feedback on this. When he was acting all quiet it made me feel like he was reacting to ME, but he has a lot on his mind and may be reacting to a number of things. He DID keep our plans. It feels like there is something about our R that he is clinging to.....and XH isn't the type who would get peeved by losing to a woman. He's still a much better player than I am.

XH responded to my e-mail saying "so you must have spotted her some points?" XH had told me at TT that he told his business partner that he was playing TT with me, so I e-mailed his business partner a quick e-mail the next morning, suggesting they get a TT table at the office, and copied XH. I figured that this was an opportunity for further reconnection with XH's friends. His business partner replied: "Hey, that's great news!!! That's actually a great idea… Ping Pong table/kitchen table in new break room??? Mr. GAG keeps a score sheet pinned up on his wall (jk).........Let me know when you beat him again."

Missher, XH has actually been playing TT with me for ~6 months. I really think that GF#2 must know that I am playing TT with XH because I know first hand that his sister, FL BMF, and business partner know about this. He has probably told others too.........I LIKE your mind-reading. (THANKS!) It's interesting to hear a man's perspective of the various possibilities. I think all the ladies appreciate that perspective!

We kinda talked about this early on, your XH even said that this GF is on the way out, if I remember correctly. Bottom line his actions reinforce he does not care about her or her feelings.

After I read this I realized that XH started dating GF#2 during the period that I was very dim after the D was finalized. He had made some small overtures to me prior to that and I felt that I needed to state boundaries then. Based on XH's comment that GF#2 is not long-term R material and XH's continued interest in playing TT with me (and e-mailing me) I'm guessing that XH doesn't quite know how to extricate himself from his R with GF#2. If she was his true love he wouldn't be e-mailing me and socializing with me.

.His comment about "I'm supposed to be somewhere" was very purposely vague......WHY??? He really doesn't want to kill his chances with you by mentioning that he is going to do something with another woman......[//quote]
I know you made the mind-reading disclaimer, but this is an interesting masculine insight.

E-mailed back and forth with XH a few times on thursday about TT, his mother, and the iPad.

[quote=Missherlove]the internet dating thing....has been alot of fun.......Because everyone on the site is interested in dating!!!!!

Yes, that was my experience when I did it too, and that is kind of a nice thing. My experience was a bit varied though. Some were interested in meeting someone for a long-term commitment and others were just interested in $ex. XH told me that some of his M'ed friends were doing online dating to meet women outside of their M's and I think I probably dated at least one M'ed guy. I just got that vibe from him.

Stop settling for "friend time", I would hate to see you get pissed at Mr. GAG because he is following your lead.....what are you leading him to?????

I agree with this.........and Jody agrees too. I wish you the best with your dating and STBXW situation. I posted to you on your thread.

Lorie, thanks for posting to me. I'm glad that this info was useful to you. I have posted notes from my sessions with Jody in the past, so you might want to look back through my posts for them. Good luck with your flirting. From what I've read, when you mirror your H's behavior to flirt, you need to be careful that the mirroring is subtle and not real obvious.

CW, I'm going to order that book. the way I look at it, I think a lot of men my age might be dealing with this kind of stuff so I might as well try to learn about it. Stay warm girl! Hope your furnace is getting fixed!

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