Denver, yep I too am a huge sports fan. My college team is LSU and my pro team is New Orleans. I guess I had a split weekend at best considering what happened. As for our financial situation, it is good for me. Not so much for her. I make twice what she does and have about 10 times the assets. It was always my job to save for the future. You are probably right, she probably can't afford to buy a bunch of stuff right now. Right before she left, she bought a new car. Now that she has moved out, she now has probably over $1100 a month in new bills when you total the car note, insurance, health insurance (that I now make pay for), rent and utilities. She is definitely much more strapped for cash than I am. The good thing is that I spoke to an attorney. In my state, I have a good option. If I wait two more months, I can drop the D on her and she cannot come back on me for interim support because she abandoned the marriage. That is my plan for now. Unfortunately, she will still walk away with half of everything should we not be able to work this out. D*mn it!!!!
Update:
After my W called me yesterday, in quite a friendly mood I might add, I decided to let her sweat. Things did work out well for me though. I was dreading spending Friday night home alone, but out of the blue, some friends of mine invited me over to dinner and we had a great time. Stayed out until 1am. It was great because for a couple of hours I was completely distracted and happy. Anyway, I decided to wait until I was on the way to the gathering to call her. I gave her some line about forgetting to call her and that I wanted to touch base with her as I was "on the way to go out with friends." I made sure to put that in especially when she told me that she was going to just sit at home alone all evening. She was as friendly as could be. I told her I would call her in the morning to arrange our meeting. After weeks of going "dark," all of a sudden she was more than happy to tell me what she was going to be doing for the whole weekend. Weird. I told her I had to go as I was arriving at the party and that I hoped she would have a nice evening. She wished me the same and we hung up.
This morning, I woke up with a bit of a hangover and didn't call her until 11 a.m. Once again, she was a nice as could be. We ended up chatting for 30 minutes about things we did in high school and we laughed numerous times together. We haven't talked like that in months. None the less, I told her I wasn't feeling well because of last night and that I couldn't meet until much later today. She agreed. She once again gave me her entire schedule for the day and told me she would call me later to set up the meeting.
So, I am doing housework today and waiting for her call. I am trying to get myself mentally ready for this meeting. I don't want to break down or get emotional during this ordeal. I just don't understand. What in the h*ll is she doing??? I know, I know, Spellfire is going to get on me for worrying too much about her. And, he is right to do so. But, I am more and more confused. Why now is she being so nice?? I am not going to question her about it, but I would love to. I guess me being nice is making it easier for her to let her guard down. That is good, I guess. But, much like my buddy Denver, I am worried that I might be making it easier for her to walk away. I guess the most important thing to do right now is just continue to show her the new, calm, level-headed me. At some point, she will begin to wonder who "this guy" is. Oh well, I have to go shower and get ready. I think it might be time for some motivational music of some kind.
It is true what they say... I would not wish this on my worst enemy.
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
