OK... thought through this...

The incident with her messing around in 2006 was relatively minor but real nonetheless. However, in 2008 to early '09, there were some big problems.

Her best friend from college left her husband and father of 2 children (he was my best friend) for another man. We were furious; that marriage had been in trouble for a long time though.

Late 2008-one of her major employers in our old city went belly up due to the recession. It was like losing the family business.

Early 2009-former director of said organization, a family friend, lost his only child to Leukemia.

But I was there and supportive the whole time... does this have anything to do with our relationship?!