Childhood. Very conservative evangelical. Particularly strong emphasis on avoidance of sex outside of marriage and young-earth creationism, among other things. (We are both mainline protestants now.)
The traumatic event -immediately before the EA/PA was moving to NYC due to her career opportunity. I had begun grad school and changed to a more high stress job. Can't think of anything else.
It is possible this had been going on since 2006 or so... she kissed another man back then and stopped it immediately. Her cat from childhood had died a year earlier. Don't laugh; its the only thing she had ever lost in death and she mourned the poor animal for months. The only other time I have ever seen her that upset was after the OM cut her off.
