Forgot to add.........one light bulb moment that occurred during the session was the insight that until it feels like more work to reconnect with XH than to find a new love that I can know in my heart is "not settling", there will be no incentive for me to get out there and really look for someone. I guess I am a bit jaded in that I've been around the block a few times. I know from experience that it takes an awful lot of effort to see if someone new has the depth of character to stand the test of time with respect to integrity, companionship, and just plain physical attractiveness. Makes me tired just writing about it. I think that those men exist out there (a lot of the DB'ing men are great examples of that), but I can honestly say that I can't think of any M'ed or single men I know in real life, other than XH, who are the whole package. That is probably what is keeping me on this path now.
