I know the sadness you feel because of your husband's perception of your life together as being so bad. But that is all it is, his perception, and we both know that everything an MLC'r 'knows' right now is skewed, to say the least.
As for accepting things as 'being the way they are supposed to be', remember, it ain't over til the fat lady sings. My husband filed in April of last year, and hear we are, still without a signed separation agreement.
As traumatic as seeing it on paper will be for you, I promise it will be double for him.
Hold your head up, retain your dignity and honor, and protect yourself at all costs. I know I don't have to tell you these things, but it doesn't hurt to keep hearing them, does it? I was wrong to compare it to a guillotine. It's more like having your belly button pierced. You see it coming, know it's going to hurt, but the sting only lasts a while. (Not that I have my belly buttong pierced, mind you)
There's an idea, Seeking. When and if we actually get divorced, let's go out and get matching tattoo's. Something original and prophetic.
Hang in there sweetie. ((Hugs))
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
