One more thought about OW or OM comments. I think we all focus on the the differences between us and that person. So, I wear a 34A bra. OW is probably a FFFF, if such a size exists. In my less kind moments, I say she looks like a cross between a porn star and someone's spinster aunt (she is 10+ years older than my XH). I'm more "All American Girl" in terms of my looks, so we focus on the differences...I think none of us should take it personally. Its just a "WTF" kind of reaction to why our X's would do a 180 in terms of what they find attractive.
And, for those of us without perfect bodies, note how many of the OW's are described as being overweight. Flip it positive--having a perfect body is not necessary for having a relationship!
