fig, OT is not right. Saying someone is chubby is just an observation; it does not devalue them in anyway; it's simply the truth on a person's outside appearance.
I think taking it so personally shows an incredible amount of insecurity. Someone who loves herself would care less about a statement like that.
My amazing friends come in all shapes, sizes and colors and I love them all for who they are.
My XH left me because I am in elite shape. I am in that kind of shape because it's in my blood; I can't help it. Believe me, I've been "devalued" often because I chose to live my life so strictly. It works both ways. And, I would hate like heck for people to think that's all I am because I am so much more. I've learned that in my next relationship I must have someone who understands that, appreciates it and is not threatened by it. My XH left me for a very insecure, broken woman who will leave him at the curb someday. She is brilliant and attractive and gave him what I couldn't. Enough said...but I never meant to devalue her because I'm secure enough and love myself enough that I don't have to.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
