I agree with SBH about validating her thoughts.

I would also fire that therapist. What kind of professional encourages a spouse to cheat saying that you might as well do it or she'll do it anyway.

Maybe fine one that's PRO-marriage.

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Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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