Living Like Roomates 2

[Bolt]

Thanks Bolt. In what way did you push things too fast? For me its the wanting to have the R discussion. We haven't talked about our R since I confronted her about the OM about 6 weeks ago. Everyday I wrestle with wanting to bring up the discussion to find out where she is at with me and the OM.

Its a big struggle to hold back and not push on the R discussion. Instead of focusing on the R discussion I need to focus on keeping a positive frame of mind etc and not expect much in return until my wife sorts out exactly what it is she wants to do.

I started seeing results and got a little too excited and expected more. I have learned to curb those expectations completely.

I saw W being more affectionate once and got very comfortable with that. When the affection didn't continue the next 2 (TWO!!) days, I got insecure and voiced my feelings - mistake.

As far as the R, let her bring it up. The ball is in her court. Any convos about our R has always been brought up by W. I simply go with it and don't be overzealous about it.