Boundaries, not until they come out of thier Crisis if you want a chance of the boundary to work.
So wouldn't you say Jack that we can have NO EXPECTATIONS of the boundaries working, not that we can't have boundaries.
Or did I misread what you wrote?
Whoa. Boundaries working??? Boundaries are for the LBS. They "work" if you set them properly and sparingly and enforce accordingly. Since you should only be setting boundaries to protect your own mental health etc, they will work if you make them. They are not to manipulate, coerce, force or control anyone else, ie your MLCer, into doing something. If you are setting boundaries with an expectation that someone else's behaviour is going to change as a result then you are off on the wrong foot IMO.
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
