"at least i was fooled into thinking it was normal."

It's obvious you weren't "fooled". Although it may be an unusual problem, it's still a marital problem and it wasn't there when you first got married.

"i want a normal healthy relationship/marriage again. "

To your H I'm assuming.

You're out of the home now so that's okay. Now what do you plan to do next or are you looking for suggestions?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER