you've heard from people that are or have taken them...and their thoughts on them but since this is h we are talking about let's pose the question to these wonderful women who have offered their experience with meds and see how they would have felt pre-med about their spouse "suggesting" that they go back to their doctor and take them?
if that kinda sounds like I'm not in favor of you pushing the issue of meds with h again, you're right.
The best you can do right now (mho of course ) is to learn what you can about depression and how to deal with a depressed spouse (I believe there's a section in dr about it) from books, people, doctors etc. but in the end to take or not to take meds will be h's choice.