Thankfully. My W saw how one was affecting the other and vice versa or at least she does now. Obviously, I it wasn't enough to not get involved in the first place.
But she is still not all the way there. I think she understand now why she did what she did and she knows (and as told me) that she really hurt me a lot with her actions. The other night during our crying hug thing said said that she was so sorry that she did what she did. But at times she does try to down play it though.
for now it seems she is investing her emotions it working on our marriage, even if she is not one the same pace as me. for me the issue is believing it at times. I mean I know some of the things and attitudes she put into the EA an clearly she doesn't put that same effort into me now. But on the other hand, she is putting in a lot more work in some respects. The EA was probably easier to put emotions into, the real marriage, especially at this stage, is probably harder. I think that's why it disappoints her so much when I backslide.
NYE was a disaster in many respects for our relationship. I see how bad it really was. She opened herself up to me and I wasn't appreciative. It's a tough pill to swallow.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
