I don't know if my W and you are using the word in the same context. Her idea is that she kinda takes her emotion out of the situation or puts off thinking about the situation while she's at work. It's almost like detachment to an extent.

I know exactly why I'm here, there is no mystery and my W has told me what's wrong. In many ways our is an atypical situation. She is very good at telling me how she is feeling about things small and large.
I will say some of this is because I probably push R talks too much. I mean I force her to think about things she simply doesn't want.
She does acknowledge that she can't compartmentalize forever and told me last night. She thinks there are times and place for talking about things. She knows it's not a good thing.

Originally Posted By: MrBond
They compartmentalize so much that their life with their spouse is different than their life with another person and can blur the lines between the two.


Perhaps you could explain this a little. I mean I would expect to some extent all spouse in an A (EA or PA) live two lives.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.