TimeHeals - not sure who you are addressing with your questions here. But I don't know if it works or not - I don't have as much experience as some of the people/mods here do.
I'll be honest, there are days when I'm not even sure if I want this to work out, but then most of the time I know that I want my marriage and my family back. I'm just trying everyday to do the things that give me the best chance of that happening. At the end of the day, if it all goes to hell I will at least know that I did all I could to save our marriage. The rest will be on her.
As for last nite - she was a little distant last nite. Had a couple hours of free time until I got out of work. Never said what she did, and I didn't ask. But things were a little less friendly than the couple of days before. Was she with him? I don't know. I do know she had a brief conversation with her lawyer yesterday (not sure about what). But she slept on her side of the bed last nite, and me on mine.
Again, I'm just trying to make sense of what to do. I am reading TDR, and trying to act like it doesn't matter to me one way or the other what she does, and trying to move on and GAL. I've also tried to set some firm boundaries, while trying not to actually drive her away and toward something else. It's a fine line, I tell you.
And I believe what MrBond wrote about the blinders - that is EXACTLY how she is acting. Myself and my sister (who is W's best friend) both think the same thing. It's like she is in a trance or something, like there needs to be some sort of "shock" to her system to bring her out of it.
