Initially H said he wasn't completely closing the door on R, and contacts were initiated both ways. We met for breakfast and dinner, and had a little R talk - this was prior to me finding DR. Since the holidays, contacts have mostly been initiated by me due to financial questions.
I thought he was MLC due to his childhood and other circumstances. His father was quite demanding of his children, and all of them felt they didn't measure up in some respect. They all suffer from low self-esteem. H and his sister both have told me they don't have long term friends. I feel my H has established several friendships in the past (male and female) because they made him felt needed.
Is the initiating contact issue the only determining factor on MLCer v WAH? Does MLCer or WAH determine how I should be responding?
