Hey Punchy, don't bring up R discussion, let her do it, simple.
If you are GAL'ing, happy, confident and creating a comfortable atmosphere for communication your W will talk when she is ready.
Timing? I agree each situation is different.
Back in 2001 when i first started DB'ing and averted WAW with probable EA or PA it took roughly 9 months for W to come to some sort of decision point where we were again intimate and what i thought was better off with our M. Fast forward 10 years and my W has asked for a separation....so timing, ya, who knows?
I'd say timing with your situation is just right. Don't lose your cool, be patient. You might be surprised how fast the switch goes on when it happens.
Having said that, don't ever ignore underlying problems in your R or think the good will just outmask the bad forever. I've learned that the hard way by probably not getting the right MC'ing way back when.
