Keep throwing it out there, it helps to sort through it all. I do the same thing. Half of what I say doesn't even make sense and I bounce all over the place and am in the desperately hurting phase still... but it sure beats keeping it all inside. Vent, talk, bounce.
"Clearly doesn't want me".... I hate to be blunt... but no, she doesn't. But not clearly. If she wanted you, she'd be with you or more open. BUT she may still not know what she wants. I'm not saying it's not a lost cause... I'm saying that right now, at this moment, she doesn't. So do be in the moment and focus on you. If she changes her mind, she will tell you. The point is, you need to continue living your life without her unless something changes. You've made a lot of progress in the past year doing that, right? Don't backslide now.
Now, throw this advice back in my face because I good at giving advice but never taking my own! I understand the pain you're in, I really do. Keep bouncing words here.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11