When spooning after the reading she backed into me more then she ever has. She was also rubbing my arm while falling asleep.
Very good! IMO, a woman will do that as she feels more relaxed in the situation. If she felt pressured or thought you would try to jump her bones, I don't think she would be moving in closer and giving your arm strokes.
When she lays close facing you, instead of turning her back to spoon, then you know she's made another step.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!