This sort of talk from the MLCer is tough to read, harder in some ways than the meanness. But much of it is meaningless. That is not to suggest that your h didn't have those feelings when he wrote the words, but words only have real force if we act on what we have said. And they don't. It is all about them. He is trying to make imself feel good by trying to make you feel good.
I think you would be better in every way to stay out his life while he deals with his issues which he fondly and self delusionally thinks he is doing. He is still running fast, and has found a ledge while chaos rains down on him.
I completely agree with IB. These crises take years not months to play out, and you have to protect yourself and grow during that time. You are an amazing woman, and no sane man would leave, he would recognise there were issues and address them Weasle words are just not good enough for you. You deserve better than this.
