On Figurative Ledge - Talk Me Down?

[Truegritter]

Does this make sense? Am I wrong here that I can put off going dark and some of the detaching for a couple of months??

Look Denver there is no right or wrong provided what you are doing is aligned with your goals.

What are you hoping to accomplish by going dark?

What do you expect to happen?

You will come through this at your own pace and you will learn what you are supposed to learn when you are ready to hear it.

I say this alot. Your pain will guide you through this.

If you keep contacting your W and nothing changes in fact you feel worse because she is not ready to listen to you.

You will stop. Not when we say you should. When you learn you should.

You know your W better than we. So do what you think best.

Me? I would let her initiate contact. If you can handle the interaction then interact. If not stay dark but do it for you.

Detachment is a tool for you to get to a better place NOT a tactic IMO.

Do not attach outcomes to it for your W. Good or bad. Only outcomes for you.

Let her alone. She will get in touch with you when she wants to talk to you. Then STFU and listen.

Why would you want to force and control all those possible and potential outcomes up there ^^^^.

Do you own a crystal ball?

Please don't give up on me Gritter and Sandi

I am here because you are here. And as long as you keep posting here no matter what, the people here will help.

You are not disserving anyone here by living your life and making choices and learning from your mistakes.

We all share this tragedy that has happened in our M. Our goal is to help you through this.

Give you the benefit of an objective view and experience.