Just like most of you...

[sarahani]

I've been doing really well with detaching, have not called, pursued, or R talks at all for a week and a half I know that isn't long but it's the best I've done in months. He calls almost everyday just to see how the kids are doing. I get some positive vibes like I don't hear the anger in his voice anymore but on the negative end he seems more detached than he ever has. I found out from his sisters that he told them "it's done between us" again. I love him but as I detach more and more I'm finding that I'm starting to be less interested in him and I keep remembering all the negativities in our relationship. Is this suppose to happen? I feel like by the time this is all over I'm going to be so mentally tired I'm going to second guess saving my marriage. Should it be that difficult for 2 people to be in a relationship, shouldn't he know what he wants? I honestly cannot think of anything I have done in the R to make him want to leave us. He wrote me a letter a few months ago and said, "thank you for being a good person. It's not you it's me." He also said “life is messed up, I guess just leave it up to God and see what happens.” Didn't sound very enthusiastic but I didn't take it to be a bad thing either. Please someone give me some encouragement to stay on the DB path I'm starting to lose hope and just giving up...I'm tired.