Eric, I'm typically good at identifying sarcasm and getting the gyst of what's going on, but you totally lost me.
Yes, I'm venting above. But, I'll take a shot at answering the question I think you're asking. Yes, I do have alot to do with the status of my marriage. Do I have a lot to do with my W's crisis? Probably not.
Does the fact that I hooked up with someone 7 months into her affair have anything to do with her crisis? Not at all. Do I have any guilt about doing it? Not really. I beat myself up for being stupid and feeling sorry for myself, but I'm OK with what I did. I learned from it and am not looking for it again.
By "allowing" her to attend, I'm only saying that I had a choice about whether she attended or not. I "let" her and I didn't like the consequences. I thought I was prepared to deal with any negativity, but I thought she'd hold back on the one day I can claim. I need to move further away and let walk her own path.
Regarding insurance companies, TARP, etc, you lost me.
M / W: 43 D8 S6 M 10 years / T 13 years W admitted EA/PA: 10.6.09 Separated in same house 10.6.09 W moved out 2.27.10