Habit, I did think of meds too during the 3-4 months post bomb. Like you, I couldn't sleep, and lost my appetite, lost 35 lbs (which was good). In the end, I did not take meds, and found myself slowly getting back my appetite and being able to sleep. This started happening around 4 months post bomb. Nothing lasts forever, as they say, or maybe you just get used to a life of pain. I also started having a zest for life again, and GALing was easier and no longer a pretense. I see my life as being so much like yours at this point. My H is detached, and sometimes when he talks to me I feel like he is forcing himself, he mumbles to me. When he is being friendly I cannot help it, it makes my day. Difference is there is an EA involved. If we want to save our M's though is there anything else we can do? The inactivity, inability to take hold of our future is so frustrating. And yet, everyone says time and patience is essential. I think though that when the time is ready for change, it will happen. Hope it is in the firection yu want though.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go