Lighthouse lit till WAW comes out of fog.

[MrBond]

In my sitch, my W was hell on wheels in the first year. She had an EA with her boss twice her age. Nothing I did, no matter how nice, she was a total b*tch. She moved out after that first year to her sister's and she's still depressed. Since then, through what I've learned here and elsewhere things have gotten much better between the two of us. I'll re-post my story somewhere.

The point is, you learn that it's their journey. There's a time and place for everything. If I would have pushed her early on, we would be D'd by now. I see her slowly coming out of the fog, and I live my life.

If anyone would have told me that it would take this long in the beginning, I would have said there was no way I'd stay. But you take one day at a time and when you see a change, you make note of it and move on. But it all comes down to you. It's often mentioned around here that it's a marathon and not a sprint. It's up to you to see if you can go the distance.

But always stay proactive. Always be doing something either for yourself and your kids first and foremost and when the opportunity arises, for your spouse.